Body language is difficult for some men to understand. One would think that crossing and uncrossing your legs is a pretty obvious flirting method, especially if you're wearing a pair of really high heels. It’s a very sexy approach, but some men are too dense to realize it’s considered flirting! If you flirt using body language, you should think of a different approach that all men pick up on. Try a method that involves body contact, like brushing his arm if he makes a funny joke.
2. Twisting Your Hair
Men are usually in their own world. If they see a pretty girl, they notice her, but they don’t always pay attention to all the details. Using your hair to be flirtatious is something that men usually aren’t aware of. This can come across as a nervous twitchy habit, instead of something that’s sexy. You don’t need to constantly run your fingers through your hair to get a man’s attention – just smile.
Men don't notice every little detail about a woman. If they did, we wouldn’t love them as much as we do. If you go to the bathroom to brush your hair halfway into a conversation, they won't notice. Put as much effort into your appearance as you want before you meet them but it's better to focus your energy on making great conversation. Save the hairbrushing for when you get home.
If you wink at a man, he might think you have a tick. It will get his attention but it won’t leave him thinking you’re a sultry seductress. Winking isn’t something that a woman should do. Joey Tribbiani from the TV show Friends can wink at ladies, but if you want to flirt with a man, don’t wink at him.
5. Laughing At Everything He Says
Laughing can be a great way to flirt - who doesn't love that ego boost of meeting somebody that finally "gets it." But if you’re speaking to a man and you laugh at everything he says, you'll only confuse him – aside from coming off just plain silly. He's going to wonder what's actually so funny.
One terrible way to flirt with someone is to try to make them jealous. Immature men or drama kings may pick up on this, but the mature ones will see right through it. Besides, most guys are too stupid to realize you're trying to make them jealous. So step up your game and act your age. Using jealousy as a flirting tactic is for children.
7. Keep The Compliments To Yourself
Compliments are like alcohol. They are good in moderation but disastrous in excess. You can compliment a guy on his outfit but you don't need to tell him how hot he is 10 times. Plus, chances are if you compliment someone as a way of flirting, they will most likely just think you’re just being nice. Come up with a more obvious way of flirting that even clueless men will notice.
8. Facebook Flirting
In today’s day and age, Facebook has become a way to meet people. It’s a sad fact, but true. If you send someone a flirty message on Facebook, they most likely won’t realize that you’re flirting with them. Some people don’t check their messages or they don’t always respond. Don't send flirty messages like you're scared. Save the flirting for real life.
9. Chomping on Your Gum
Chewing gum isn't sexy. If you try to be sexual with your gum to pick up a guy, he will most likely think something is wrong with you. Gum chewing should be saved for your guy friends – not to impress a man you like.
Sending someone you’re casually dating a goodnight text isn’t flirting, it’s just needy. They will view you as a typical girl instead of thinking you’re flirting with them. Save your flirting for in person meet-ups, it'll be much more effective than a text message. Technology may be taking over the world, but when it comes down to it, good ol' fashioned one-on-one is still the best way to go.
Okay ladies, now you’re clued into some techniques that men don’t consider flirting. So, don’t waste your time sending out the wrong signals, men don’t notice them. Get out there and get your flirt on!